It’s so easy to be unhappy with ourselves when our Life Conditions don’t equal our Blueprint of how we think our life should be.
However, when instead, we love ourselves and our life – well, everything changes. We truly know we are enough, we don’t judge ourselves harshly for failing at things and we aren’t jealous and resentful of others for what they have either.
Such inner congruence requires profound knowing of ourselves and who we want to be and then acting on it.
Because once you know who you are at a core level – and you actually live from that version of yourself – everything changes. Your decisions change. Your habits change. Your energy changes. And your life starts to look like the one you’ve been secretly dreaming about.
I learned this the hard way… while falling out of a plane.
Yep, genuinely falling. A whole-ass skydive.
Here’s the twist: I am actually absolutely terrified of heights – palms-sweaty, stomach-flipping, terrified.
And yet… I jumped. I didn’t just jump – I smiled while doing it.
Why?
Because by that point, I wasn’t living as the scared version of myself anymore.
I had built an identity of adventure, expansion, and courage. I liked who I had become.
And living up to that identity felt more natural than obeying the old fears that once ruled my life.
Identity is far more powerful than any global belief, rule, or story you’ve picked up along the way.
Identity is the lens that shapes what you believe you’re capable of, what you tolerate, what you chase, and what you never even attempt.
Your capability is constant – but how much of it you access depends entirely on the identity you’re living from.
When you upgrade your identity, you expand your life.
And when your sense of self becomes bigger than your fears?
You do things your old self would never even imagine.
I was terrified of heights.
I was claustrophobic.
I could list a hundred reasons why I “shouldn’t” have skydived or scuba dived.
But the identity I had built – the woman I had decided to be – was stronger than any of those limits.
And that’s the secret most women never realise:
Your identity is the gatekeeper of your destiny.
Not your fear.
Not your past.
Not your circumstances.
Who you believe you are determines the life you allow yourself to live.
So if there’s a life you’re dreaming of – one with bold choices, deep joy, bigger impact, more freedom – you don’t get there by forcing willpower or trying harder.
You get there by updating the woman you believe yourself to be.
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