Fear doesn’t disappear when you think your way out of it.
It dissolves when your body senses certainty.
That might surprise you – because most women believe they need confidence before they act.
But certainty is what fear responds to.
As a midlife woman, fear often sounds very reasonable.
It disguises itself as logic, responsibility, timing, or ‘being sensible’.
But what if this doesn’t work?
But what if I’m judged?
What if I fail – or succeed and can’t sustain it?
Fear needs to be outgrown.
And the way you outgrow it is by choosing certainty – again and again.
Certainty doesn’t mean you know every step.
It means you’ve decided who you are becoming – and you refuse to think yourself out of it.
It sounds like:
“I don’t know quite how yet – but I’m available to start.”
“I’m willing to feel uncomfortable for the life I want.”
“I trust myself to handle whatever comes next.”
When your nervous system feels that level of self-trust, fear loses its grip.
This is inner power embodiment.
Not forcing yourself forward.
Not bypassing fear.
It’s anchoring so deeply into your decision that fear no longer gets a vote.
And here’s the most important truth:
You don’t wait for certainty to arrive.
You practice it.
Every time you keep your word to yourself.
Every time you choose alignment with your values over approval.
Every time you move forward without feeling the need to over-explain yourself.
Certainty is a muscle.
The more you embody it, the quieter fear becomes.
So the question isn’t:
“How do I get rid of fear?”
It’s:
“Am I willing to decide – and do I trust myself to stay decided?”
Because when you are…
Fear has nowhere left to stand.
With Fierce Love & Courage,
Claire x
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