Christmas can be beautiful…
And it can also be energetically loud!
The noise.
The expectations.
The schedules.
The emotions.
The family dynamics that haven’t quite caught up with who you are now.
Even the most self-aware, grounded women can feel themselves subtly pulled back into old roles at this time of year.
The peacemaker.
The people-pleaser.
The ‘keep everyone happy’ version of you.
And here’s the thing – none of that means you’ve failed in your growth.
It just means Christmas has a way of testing how embodied your evolution really is.
Because emotional energy is precious.
It’s not unlimited.
And when it leaks away, it leaves you feeling tired, irritable, or strangely disconnected from yourself – even in the middle of what’s meant to be a joyful season.
So let’s talk about how to retain your emotional energy this Christmas – not by hardening, withdrawing, or bracing yourself… but by staying anchored in who you’ve become.
Why christmas drains us (even when we love it)
Christmas isn’t just a date on the calendar – it’s a collection of memories, habits, expectations, and unspoken agreements.
Your nervous system remembers who you were in these environments.
Your body remembers how you used to respond.
So when you step into familiar rooms with familiar people, old versions of you can come knocking – not because they’re needed, but because they’re familiar.
This is where your power lies:
You no longer have to respond automatically.
Protecting Your Energy Isn’t Selfish – It’s Self-Leadership.
Retaining your emotional energy doesn’t mean disengaging or distancing yourself…
It means choosing presence over performance.
It means allowing yourself to feel without absorbing everything around you.
It means noticing when something isn’t yours to carry… and letting it pass.
You don’t need to manage everyone’s emotions.
You don’t need to explain your boundaries.
You don’t need to prove how ‘healed’ you are.
Your calm speaks for itself.
A Simple Energy Practice for the Season:
♥ Before you walk into any room this Christmas, pause…
Just for a moment.
Take a breath and quietly set an intention:
“I choose peace. I choose presence. I choose to stay anchored in who I am now.”
This isn’t about controlling the environment.
It’s about reminding your body that you are in charge now.
When you lead with intention, your nervous system follows.
Gentle Reminders for the Season:
• You don’t have to absorb every comment, mood, or expectation.
• You don’t have anything to prove.
• You are allowed to step away, take breaks, or change the pace.
• Your growth doesn’t disappear just because it’s Christmas.
You can love people without losing yourself.
You can enjoy the season without performing in it.
You can be present without being pulled off centre.
Remain the calm, centred queen that I know you are.
Let your nervous system soften.
Let your shoulders drop.
Let your energy stay with you.
This season is not a test.
It’s an invitation to embody who you’ve become – gently, quietly and powerfully.
With fierce love & courage,
Claire x
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